|Description||Up A Cup Unsolved problems in couples can lurk in the shadows, causing physical problems such as low sexual desire before surfacing. Maybe you have received unnecessary comments, lack of affection, selfish behavior or even infidelity.Many minor occurrences of negative events can be worse than a major negative event. People are less likely to deal with minor events as they occur. Then they are stored in the back of the mind and accumulate over time. They have to manifest themselves in a negative way eventually.